How Seriously Should We Take Heartbreak?

Your world has just come crashing down and you just can't face the demands of work - or anything else - for a while. How great would it be if you could just phone in and say I need to take a "heartbreak day" and that was accepted as a normal and perfectly acceptable thing to do? Well an inovative lady in Japan has done just that .. check it out -

The Japanese Times, Sunday, Sept. 17, 2006

Heartbreak heaven for staff By Yoko Hani

Miki Hiradate in the Tokyo salon of her market-research firm Hime & Company, whose all-female staff she treats in considerate ways that most women workers in Japan could only dream of. YOSHIAKI MIURA PHOTO

".....Unless you are extremely lucky," says Hiradate, the firm's 37-year-old founder and president, "you will definitely have the experience in your 20s and 30s of being brokenhearted after someone leaves you.

"So, shitsuren kyuka is a [paid] holiday you take when that happens and you feel too devastated to come to the office. I introduced it after I asked young women what they wanted from 'female-friendly companies,' and they suggested these holidays."

"Some people may just call their office and say they're taking a day off because they don't feel well, but in my company the employees can openly say they are taking a shitsuren kyuka. They are not asked anything more.

"You know, when you are brokenhearted, you feel terrible and have red eyes and the condition affects your work performance. I recommend them to come to the office after taking some rest. That's good for the company, too," Hiradate says in an upbeat tone.

As for how much rest a lovelorn lady might be allowed, Hiradate believes that the damage done by breaking up gets more serious the older you become. Consequently, her company grants one day a year off to staff in their early 20s, two days off to those in their late 20s and three days off to thirty somethings. .... more HERE

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Do We Need To Find Out What Guys Want?

In the following article, Do men want hot mamas or the girl next door?, David Zinzcenko examines what guys want -

".....What Makes a Man Fall in Love?

Why we can’t let love in until you’ve shown us the way — and the simple words that can unleash our deepest affections.

Question: Guys, do you believe you’ve met your soul mate?

• Yes, I’m with her right now: 53 percent
• Yes, but we’re no longer together: 14 percent
• Yes, but we were never together as a couple: 9 percent
• No: 24 percent

More than three-fourths of men believe in soul mates (see above). And when we asked our guys to choose between meeting the love of their life or having amazing sex for six months, 92 percent chose falling in love. (The other 8 percent were probably Maxim readers.) Consider what these three men said about the experience of falling in love:

• “We need to feel love, loyalty, and chemistry above all else,” says Ian, 31.
• “Men also feel the butterflies and giddiness that women do when they’re in love,” says Robert, 26.
• “Women don’t realize most guys are in love long before they are willing to admit it to anyone,” says Drew, 30.

Read more HERE

In fact there is a lot of evidence that "loyalty" is actually a very big deal for guys. It is something they have a LOT of anxiety about and are really unsure about how to generate it. So many of them try to get a woman who has "built in" loyalty qualities. Not being able to generate loyalty does show, however, that a guy is lacking some important realtionship building talents!

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